Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Rend Your Hearts


Jeffrey Osborne - On the Wings of Love... 
Heartrendingly beautiful song


Have you ever had a broken heart?
I think in one way or another, most if not all of us have...
How did you respond to it? What went through your mind, and your heart?
I know that there have been times when I felt the heartbreak as much as Toni Braxton sounds when she sings Un-Break My Heart, or when it was the person who is closest to me... Madonna's Take a Bow.

Madonna - Take a Bow  

 Take a bow, the night is over
This masquerade is getting older
Light are low, the curtains down
There's no one here
[There's no one here, there's no one in the crowd]
Say your lines but do you feel them
Do you mean what you say when there's no one around [no one around]
Watching you, watching me, one lonely star
[One lonely star you don't know who you are]

Chorus:

I've always been in love with you [always with you]
I guess you've always known it's true [you know it's true]
You took my love for granted, why oh why
The show is over, say good-bye

Say good-bye [bye bye], say good-bye

Make them laugh, it comes so easy
When you get to the part
Where you're breaking my heart [breaking my heart]
Hide behind your smile, all the world loves a clown
[Just make 'em smile the whole world loves a clown]
Wish you well, I cannot stay
You deserve an award for the role that you played [role that you played]
No more masquerade, you're one lonely star
[One lonely star and you don't know who you are]

(chorus, repeat)

Say good-bye [bye bye], say good-bye

All the world is a stage [world is a stage]
And everyone has their part [has their part]
But how was I to know which way the story'd go
How was I to know you'd break
[You'd break, you'd break, you'd break]
You'd break my heart

I've always been in love with you
[I've always been in love with you]
Guess you've always known
You took my love for granted, why oh why
The show is over, say good-bye

(chorus)

Say good-bye [bye bye], say good-bye
Say good-bye


Toni Braxton -   Un-break My Heart

Don't leave me in all this pain
Don't leave me out in the rain
Come back and bring back my smile
Come and take these tears away
I need your arms to hold me now
The nights are so unkind
Bring back those nights when I held you beside me

Un-break my heart
Say you'll love me again
Undo this hurt you caused
When you walked out the door
And walked out of my life
Un-cry these tears
I cried so many nights
Un-break my heart
My heart

Take back that sad word good-bye
Bring back the joy to my life
Don't leave me here with these tears
Come and kiss this pain away
I can't forget the day you left
Time is so unkind
And life is so cruel without you here beside me

Un-break my heart
Say you'll love me again
Undo this hurt you caused
When you walked out the door
And walked out of my life
Un-cry these tears
I cried so many nights
Un-break my heart
My heart

Don't leave me in all this pain
Don't leave me out in the rain
Bring back the nights when I held you beside me

Un-break my heart
Say you'll love me again
Undo this hurt you caused
When you walked out the door
And walked out of my life
Un-cry this tears
I cried so many, many nights
Un-break my

Un-break my heart oh baby
Come back and say you love me
Un-break my heart
Sweet darlin'
Without you I just can't go on
Can't go on....


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Sometimes, though, when there is heartbreak, it is because a dream or family member, a close friend, a beloved mentor or other person one admires has died. When someone we love and care about dies, no matter whether or not we have actually met them, there is certainly heartbreak...

Sometimes the death of a dream is that art is misunderstood, and therefore the artist. Vincent Van Gogh had a dream when he painted Starry Starry Night... and most people didn't recognize it as he lived; it only came to light after his death. Vincent, by Don McLean, shares one version of interpretation.

Don McLean- Vincent (Starry, Starry Night)

Starry, starry night
Paint your palette blue and gray
Look out on a summer's day
With eyes that know the darkness in my soul
Shadows on the hills
Sketch the trees and the daffodils
Catch the breeze and the winter chills
In colors on the snowy linen land

Now I understand what you tried to say to me
And how you suffered for your sanity
How you tried to set them free
They would not listen, they did not know how
Perhaps they'll listen now

Starry, starry night
Flaming flowers that brightly blaze
Swirling clouds in violet haze
Reflect in Vincent's eyes of china blue
Colors changing hue
Morning fields of amber grain
Weathered faces lined in pain
Are soothed beneath the artist's loving hand

Now I understand what you tried to say to me
And how you suffered for your sanity
And how you tried to set them free
They would not listen, they did not know how
Perhaps they'll listen now

For they could not love you
But still your love was true
And when no hope was left inside
On that starry, starry night
You took your life as lovers often do
But I could have told you, Vincent
This world was never meant
For one as beautiful as you

Starry, starry night
Portraits hung in empty halls
Frameless heads on nameless walls
With eyes that watch the world and can't forget
Like the strangers that you've met
The ragged men in ragged clothes
A silver thorn, a bloody rose
Lie crushed and broken on the virgin snow

Now I think I know what you tried to say to me
And how you suffered for your sanity
And how you tried to set them free
They would not listen, they're not listening still
Perhaps they never will



Sometimes heartbreak is because of how absolutely BEAUTIFUL something is... that the beauty around us is so intense yet surreal; so spectacular and heartrendingly awesome that heartbreak is the closest word to how it feels. Sometimes, this is in the form of watching the relationship of two people you KNOW that you KNOW are totally in love, and loving one another on every level. This is rare, but it exists. On the Wings of Love, by Jeffrey Osborne - at the top of the page - is a song that exemplifies this.

When someone we love is going through a hard time, it can also be heartbreaking. Sometimes, what it takes to help them heal and in turn unbreak our own hearts is to encourage them. Josh Groban's You Are Loved (Don't Give Up) is a good example of how we can encourage someone who is depressed, down and out, or otherwise having a difficult time...

Josh Groban - You are Loved (Don't Give Up)


Don't give up
It's just the weight of the world
When you're heart's heavy
I...I will lift it for you

Don't give up
Because you want to be heard
If silence keeps you
I...I will break it for you

Everybody wants to be understood
Well I can hear you
Everybody wants to be loved
Don't give up
Because you are loved

Don't give up
It's just the hurt that you hide
When you lost inside
I...I will be there to find you

Don't give up
Because you want to burn bright
If darkness blinds you
I...I will shine to guide you

Everybody wants to be understood
Well I can hear you
Everybody wants to be loved
Don't give up
Because you are loved

You are loved
Don't give up
It's just the weight of the world
Don't give up
Every one is to be heard
You are loved



 Sometimes the world around us, itself... the system... that is what breaks our heart. The things we can change if we try hard enough, and the things we know we can't, no matter how much we want to. These are the things that make us want to look at the Man in the Mirror.


What about when a baby is born? I've heard that at times, the mother so enjoyed the pregnancy that there is heartbreak over the loss of the pregnant state while there is joy in holding her child.

 However we define heartbreak, it makes us stronger; it helps us to FEEL things we otherwise wouldn't, and to learn about ourselves and the world around us. How we grow depends on how we respond to it, and what we choose to do with the emotional information coming into who we are as well as how we share that information with the world. And more importantly, what we decide to do with our lives, in spite of heartbreak, shows who we really are. Will we stop loving in order to try to hide from pain, or will we love again and again until we find the people worth the loving? The ones who will be there, no matter what?







  All this to get to the point of heartbreak: it isn't the end of the world. In fact, God tells us that when we sin, if we rend our hearts (become beartbroken) over the sin and turn to Him, away from what has held us in the constraints of our invisible chains (for sin and the world are, indeed, a prison of confinement), He will heal, deliver, and save us.

Joel tells us in verses 12-14 (NIV):
12 “Even now,” declares the Lord,
    “return to me with all your heart,
    with fasting and weeping and mourning.”
13 Rend your heart
    and not your garments.
Return to the Lord your God,
    for he is gracious and compassionate,
slow to anger and abounding in love,
    and he relents from sending calamity.
14 Who knows? He may turn and relent
    and leave behind a blessing —
grain offerings and drink offerings
    for the Lord your God.

While the context of these verses is that there is a plague of locusts in the land, as well as drought (meaning that the agricultural and farming culture not only had little to eat, but lost out financially, as well) this is something that applies to all of us, isn't it? The people had gone against the Word of the Lord, and against God Himself, in their deeds and hearts, and the plague and drought were a result of it.



Sometimes our lives become spiritual deserts; sometimes our lives are plagued because of something that we have said, done, or thought - a choice we made - that we might not even realize until after it's over that we've done. 

Sometimes, one of the types of heartbreak mentioned earlier in the post is a result of what we have been doing that we know, deep down, isn't the right thing to do. Sometimes it isn't. But heartbreak can be a sign to us of something deeper. When we come to a place of heartbreak, what are we looking at: what we have gained, lost, or done? What was our part in the process, if any? What decisions did we make along the way to the heartbreak? 

Sometimes rending our hearts is better than grieving over things that cannot be changed. We have a choice, each time something happens in our lives, to do the right thing. We have a choice to make the best of each and every situation, no matter what has happened or where we have been in life. God is ALWAYS there waiting for us to return to Him if we have fallen away. He is there, no matter what...